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Resilience Booster

Dr. Martin Seligman, often called the father of positive psychology, has found that people who are naturally resilient have an optimistic explanatory style—that is, they explain adversity in optimistic terms to avoid falling into feelings of helplessness.


Resilience Booster
Resilience Booster

Those who refuse to give up routinely interpret setbacks as temporary, local and changeable:


1. “The problem will resolve quickly…”

2. “It’s just this one situation…”

3. “I can do something about it…”


In contrast, people who have a pessimistic explanatory style respond to failure differently. They habitually think setbacks are permanent, universal and immutable:


1. “Things are never going to be any different…”

2. “This always happens to me…”

3. “I can’t change things, no matter what…”


The first step toward changing thoughts and explanatory style is noticing our own thoughts and statements (with self-compassion) and thinking about alternatives. We all know glass half-full and glass half-empty people. Try shifting your own thoughts to half-full and see if you notice a difference in the way you feel and how people respond to you.


Please let me know how you do!